If we want to understand our world better, to get closer to a more complete perspective, we need to be consciously open to changing our minds. It requires great vulnerability to say, “I see things differently now.” Or “I was wrong before and now I know better.”
This is tantamount to saying, “I made a mistake,”words far too rare to hear in our society. In moments where we admit error, we become as vulnerable as a dog who rolled on his back, exposing his belly to be rubbed, trusting that his human friend will pet him and not do something to hurt him while he is in that exposed position.
Allow ourselves … and everyone else … the grace to be human. Imperfect. Changeable. When someone starts expressing doubts about something, or says they made an error, they are being vulnerable. We can be the same sort of friend to other humans as we are to dogs who show us their soft underbelly. When someone tells you they’re starting to alter their position or are starting question something they’ve long believed, don’t say something like “I told you so” or “what took you so long.” Remember they’re showing you their vulnerability, they’ve rolled over and opened themselves up for potential pain. Show compassion. Listen more than you speak. Encourage their exploration.
There’s no shame in changing your mind. It’s normal and a sign of growth. Find compassion for yourself and others by allowing mistakes, allowing growth, and allowing that doubt and vulnerability can lead to a greater understanding of our world.
Joni Miller is a writer, researcher, coach, and speaker who uses her knowledge, education, and love of all things spiritual to help others find their unique spiritual path. www.SpiritualGeography.net
Ep 17: Helping Ourselves Change Our Minds